Losing a child in any way is a difficult pill to swallow. But when you lose a child to a prison sentence, there will always be a sense of regret – and what might have been had you done something different, or acted in an alternative way. For many parents, this is a difficult reality – and one that they wake up to every day. A feeling of helplessness – certainly not enviable. Now nineteen parents have revealed through popular confessions app Whisper how they are coping, with some interesting results. Read on for more.
A few themes are common in their responses – admittedly most are negative, however there are some pragmatic individuals who see some positives in the incarceration of their children. Unfortunately, one theme which is almost entirely consistent is drugs – they clearly tear families apart when one becomes addicted to them. This is another suggestion as to why not to involve yourself in this area. Drugs, when used for medical purposes, have the potential to do incredible things. But they certainly have a dark side, as many have found out to their cost.
One parent tells of how they lie to friends about the whereabouts of their child – so they don’t need to explain what happened. Others shoulder the blame – one suggesting it was their fault for ‘not raising him better’. ‘Heart-broken’ and feeling let down are also common themes described by parents. One describes of how their child doesn’t write to them, despite their predicament. As expected, many describe how they miss their child – surely any would in this situation. Not knowing if their child is safe in prison is also a potential issue.
However, as mentioned, some look on it positively. Some see it as a chance for their family member to learn their lesson. With many being unreliable – one parent says that they’re pleased that at least they know the person is safe. The most positive reveal comes from one parent, who has admirably decided to raise their grandchild; Clearly wracked with guilt over their child’s incarceration, they say it is an opportunity to ‘finally get it right’. It is especially important for grandchildren to be looked after – so that hopefully they can avoid imprisonment in their life.
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Reading these responses can be harrowing. It is something that no one wants to experience in their life, yet it is a harsh reality for many. One area of solace to take from this is that when the child leaves jail, it is highly likely that time will be appreciated more. Sadly, it is so often the case that something is only appreciated when it is taken away from you.